The Enemy of the Good (eideteker) wrote,
The Enemy of the Good

Saying "No"

I don't know where people get the idea that I'm someone who can fix their problems, especially given that I feel my life is perpetually on the verge of collapsing. This weekend, I had to say no to two different people who were looking to me for help. Hard to do, especially after losing an online acquaintance to suicide. But I just don't feel like I have anything left to give. So I'm making a conscious decision to be more than what I can do for people. I'm not unplugging or anything, and I still need people and need to be needed. But I need to devote some more time to my own mental health before I can help anyone else. (The flipside, of course, is making sure I'm not leaning on anyone else too much.)

Otherwise, when that funk sometimes creeps in, I need to adopt a mantra of "why not?" When I'm telling myself I can't do this or that for some unknown and nebulous reason, I need to nail down the reasoning. Malaise breeds malaise. Don't worry about fitting it all in. Just do what you can in the time you have.

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